I was thinking the other day about "failures" - and if you've lived more that a few years, you have them. But my thinking was..."is it failure, or just a learning experience?"...and that's what I'd like to write about, how those failures can be learning experiences.
Think about the worst failure in your life - in mine, it was the time when I held onto a startup business venture for too long, ran out of money while being the sole support for my wife and kids, and it was a very bad time. I don't think I really fully recovered from it - I still have those feelings of "how could I do that", "what kind of husband and father are you", etc. and so on. That was the worst, and I carried it with me (and still carry it with me) to this day.
Now, I can't change history. I can't go back in time. And I can get back all those years from that moment to this one. BUT, I could have decided to view it as something other than a failure. I learned a bunch in my time - both professionally and personally. I did things I've never done before. I push some beyond some limits in myself, faced some fears. There was lots to take out of that time.
So, here's my assumption - that the quicker you get beyond thinking of it as a "failure" and get to thinking of it as a "lesson" / learning experience - because that's where the you turn your experiences, success, failure or inbetween, into the stepping stones to your future.
Fail fast, learn quick, move onto the next.